Do you have a hang up? You know, that thing that you are self-conscious about…the thing about yourself you hate bringing attention to.
For years, my hang up was my feet…specifically my toes. I was convinced that I had the ugliest feet in the history of the world and that no one else had feet like mine. In my mind, my toes were just unsightly. I refused to wear sandals or any opened toed shoes. I was sure everyone would point and stare and laugh at my ugly toes.
In reality, I just had long toes. At the time I didn’t have bunions or corns, just long toes. Of course reality doesn’t matter when you have a hang up.
Getting Past It
I got tired of hiding my feet. I wanted to wear flip-flops and cute sandals like everyone else. I also started paying attention to other people’s feet and realizing everyone was wearing sandals not just people with “pretty feet.” I even saw some feet that made me realize that if they could show their toes so could I.
That first time was scary. I felt self conscious and hyper aware. But, no one paid any special attention to my feet…no one pointed and no one laughed. I’d built it up so big in my head that the experience was anti-climactic. Then, the more I did it …the more comfortable I became. Now you can’t keep me out of flip-flops or sandals. I now love my feet…go figure.
It turns out they were fine all along. It was my mind that needed fixing, not my feet.
What I learned is that whatever we think IS. I’d thought my hang up into existence. I’m not saying my feet are perfect, but they are the only pair I have and I have to love them as they are.
Do you or did you have a hang up? How did you get past it?